Domestic violence can be defined as a pattern of behavior in any relationship that is used to gain or maintain power and control over an intimate partner. Domestic violence is defined by Nebraska Law as abuse that occurs between spouses, persons living as spouses, or adult members of the same household. It is attempting to cause or intentionally, knowingly, or recklessly causing bodily injury with or without a deadly weapon, or placing another in fear of imminent serious bodily injury.
Abuse is physical, sexual, emotional, economic, or psychological actions or threats which include any behaviors that frighten, intimidate, terrorize, manipulate, hurt, humiliate, blame, injure or wound someone. Domestic violence can happen to anyone of any race, age, sexual orientation, religion or gender. It can happen between couples who are married, living together or who are dating. Domestic violence affects people of all socioeconomic backgrounds and education levels.
Please remember that the definition of domestic violence is very broad. If you have any questions about your situation, please contact the Women's Center for Advancement (WCA) hotline or regular office number to speak with an advocate: 402-345-6555 or:
24/7 Crisis Hotline: 402-345-7273; ESPAÑOL Hotline: 402-672-7118
The Domestic Violence Council does not provide direct serviecs, but assists all the intervention agency partners in a collaboration to help vicitms stay safe and hold offenders accountable.
DOMESTIC VIOLENCE- A pattern of abusive behavior that keeps one partner in a position of power over the other partner through the use of fear, intimidation, and control.
PHYSICAL ABUSE- Grabbing, pinching, shoving, slapping, hitting, hair pulling, biting, etc. Denying medical care for forcing alcohol and/or drug use.
SEXUAL ABUSE- Coercing or attempting to coerce any sexual contact without consent, e.g., marital rape, forcing sex after physical beating, attacks on sexual parts of the body or treating another in a sexually demeaning manner.
ECONOMIC ABUSE- Making or attempting to make a person financially dependent e.g., maintaining total control over financial resources, withholding access to money, forbidding attendance at school or employment.
EMOTIONAL ABUSE- Undermining a person’s sense of self-worth e.g., constant criticism, belittling one’s abilities, name calling, damaging a partner’s relationship with the children.
PSYCHOLOGICAL ABUSE- Causing fear by intimidation, threatening physical harm to self, partner or children, destruction of pets and property, mind games, or forcing isolation from friends, family, school and/or work.
YOU MAY BE IN AN EMOTIONALLY ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP IF YOU PARTNER:
* Calls you names, insults you or continuously criticizes you
* Does not trust you and acts jealous or possessive
* Tries to isolate you from family or friends
* Monitors where you go, who you call and who you spend time with
* Does not want you to work
* Controls finances or refuses to share money
* Punishes you by withholding affection
* Expects you to ask permission
* Threatens to harm you, the children, your family or your pets
* Humiliates you in any way
* Damaged property when angry ( thrown objects, punched walls, kicked doors, etc.)
* Pushed, slapped, bit, kicked, or choked you
* Abandoned you in a dangerous of unfamiliar place
* Scared you by driving recklessly
* Used a weapon to threaten or hurt you
* Forced you to leave your home
* Trapped you in your home or kept you from leaving
* Prevented you from calling police or seeking medical attention
* Hurt your children
* Used physical force in sexual situations
* Views women as objects and believes in rigid gender roles
* Accuses you of cheating or is often jealous of your outside relationships
* Wants you to dress in a sexual way
* Insults you in sexual ways or calls you sexual names
* Has ever forced or manipulated you into having sex or performing sexual acts
* Held you down during sex
* Demanded sex when you were sick, tired, or after beating you
* Hurt you with weapons or objects during sex
* Involved other people in sexual activities with you
* Ignored your feelings regarding sex
* Let her/him know you are concerned about her/him
* Offer to listen
* Respect her/his choices, but encourage her/him to talk with professionals about safety issues
* Offer as much help as you can, but do not take risks with your own safety. Examples of help: childcare, transportation, a place to stay, a job, or lending money
* Give her/him a copy of the safety planning worksheet